Relationship

We provide counselling and psychotherapy for problems related to relationship with spouse, parents, children and friends. Some of these problems can be:

• Lack of trust in spouse/intimate partner
• Intimate partner violence
• Partner cheating on you
• Domestic violence by family members
• Having divorce/separation
• Alcoholic spouse/partner
• Abusive parents/children

Causes EXTERNAL CAUSES Arrange Marriage

The unsurety and doubts one may have regarding their partners and married life can make one apprehensive

Expectations

In a love marriage, fulfilling the expectations and providing the same support for life long can be exhausting. For example- to be accepted by the new family in the same way as done by the partner; to be loved the same way as before marriage; the expectation for undying support from the spouse.

Work Stress

Frustration and stress due to workload or responsibilities may sometimes get deflected on their spouse leading to arguments and fights.

In-Laws or Parents

djustment in a new family with different traditions, roles, expectations or values can be challenging for the partner moving in, who is trying to seek the love and acceptance and forming a relationship with every person can take its own time. Along with that for the partner who belongs to that family, may have to maintain a balance between spouse and parents.

Children

When children come into picture, a lot of attention and time is given to them thus spouses cannot focus on each other, fulfil their basic needs or spend quality time.

INTERNAL CAUSES Love Language

People may have different style of expressing love so understanding that can be difficult. For example- one partner may express their love through hugs and physical intimacy, whereas the other one may express their love through emotional intimacy and wants to spend quality time with their spouse.

Past Experiences

Partners coming from dysfunctional families or have gone through tragic experiences can have emotional or mental setbacks which can impact their relationships/marriage.

Difference In Goals

There can be different goals the partners may have in their minds, be it career goals, emotional development, future planning, spiritual likeability, mental connection, etc. Also, goals don’t tend to remain the same for both partners so accommodating these changes might become challenging.

As mentioned earlier there can be challenges at different levels, those can be internal (partners’ feelings) or external (in-laws, work, etc.); and all these can be interlinked.

Hence, to deal with these challenges, the couple can undergo therapy so that both of them are provided with the same platform that is unbiased, a platform where both the partners are heard hold equal position in the marriage and get a space to express their feelings.

Session Structure History Taking

To understand since when the conflicts have been there, and who all are involved in it.

What is the conflict?

Hearing out the concern from one or both the persons to understand how a situation or circumstance has impacted him/her/them.

The impact of conflicts:

To understand what is the intensity of these conflicts and how is it impacting them personally and their relationship.

Knowing Expectations:

To understand the client’s expectations and those of other people involved in it.

Taking on a Neutral Perspective:

To look at the situation from an emotional and Practical point of understanding

Choose the Path:

The counsellor helps you identify the dysfunctional patterns that you were practicing that lead to problems.

Reflecting & Implementing On the Session:

The self-work is quite important, as the individuals need to implement the understanding and insights by themselves.

Follow up:

The follow-ups are required to see how the person is doing post therapy. It allows tabbing the progress and preventing relapse if any.

Counselling Outcome

• Catharsis- release of pent up emotions
• Effective dealing of thoughts and emotions
• Staying in charge of other aspects of life
• Understanding of healthy coping mechanisms
• Acceptance and moving-on in good spirit
• Most importantly loving and respecting yourself for dealing with such a challenging experience